If there is indeed a means of achieving happiness, I would venture to say that part of that would be giving up this need for perfection. Why? Because so much unhappiness seems to come from the lack of perfection in our lives. You may not think of yourself as a perfectionist, but if you have a mental concept of the way things should be, you probably have perfectionist tendencies. Most everyone does.
We feel entitled to a life where things go in our favor; a life in which we can assert control over what is and to the extent that we can completely orchestrate our existence. Perhaps we also hold to the notion that some kind of arbitrary system is in place driving justice (i.e. that life rights itself because things going exactly as they should is a natural state.)
These beliefs hold up when things go well but do little more than breed chaos when they don’t. Beyond chaos, they leave us lost and forlorn, hands raised up, wondering what went so horribly wrong.
While depression and sadness are not solely caused by imperfection, being continually let down can’t help. Many are disheartened to see their concept of a perfect or ideal existence hovering so far above their grasp.
What if there were no longer concepts of perfection or imperfection?
Ask yourself this question: “who told me that perfection exists?”
Was it a parent, a teacher, a boss or friend? Maybe no one told you. Maybe your belief in perfection arose from a sense of inadequacy, envy or the desire to be considered as good as, or better than, those around you who appeared to be living a stellar, remarkable life.
Societally speaking, our egos encourage us to engage in comparisons with others. We reference others as a way to view ourselves. Just imagine how incredibly revolutionary it would be to view ourselves as individuals without the need to measure ourselves against others. It would be tough … or would it? After abandoning perfection, it probably wouldn’t be as hard as we’d imagine. Perfection, if no longer a factor, would no longer be that impossible goal it’d been for so long.
Furthermore, this means not only abandoning perfection for ourselves but in totality. Just give up the idea that anyone or anything is perfect or imperfect. People and things simple are what they are. Our arbitrary superlatives do not and cannot alter what they are.
Releasing ourselves from the restraint of perfection-seeking is the ultimate realization of freedom and liberty. It allows us to view life as it is and not as it is not. It allows us to address and changes the things we can and dwell in simplicity not only of mind but spirit.